Domestic Violence Facts:
- Among women brought to emergency rooms due to domestic violence, most were socially isolated and had fewer social and financial resources than other women not injured because of domestic violence.
- Without help, girls who witness domestic violence are more vulnerable to abuse as teens and adults.
- Women ages 20 to 24 are at greatest risk of becoming victims of domestic violence.
- Every year, 1 in 3 women who is a victim of homicide is murdered by her current or former partner.
- Most domestic violence incidents are never reported.
James 1:19-21The Message (MSG)
19-21 Post this at all the intersections, dear friends: Lead with your ears, follow-up with your tongue, and let anger straggle along in the rear. God’s righteousness doesn’t grow from human anger. So throw all spoiled virtue and cancerous evil in the garbage. In simple humility, let our gardener, God, landscape you with the Word, making a salvation-garden of your life.
Anger and violence doesn’t come from God. We were not created to be violent against one another. No one should abuse another person emotionally, spiritually, physically or mentally. Instead of ignoring domestic violence we need to KNOW MORE about it. It’s time for people to learn the facts about it in order to find ways to help stand against it. Prayer is needed. Don’t ever turn your nose up at a victim. Just because you don’t understand why they stay in an abusive relationship doesn’t mean they deserve to be mistreated. Don’t ever curse someone by saying “If they don’t leave then they are getting what they deserve” or “They are crazy for staying” or any variation of arrogant comments. People don’t ask to be in abusive relationships. Abusive relationships don’t always mean someone is physically abusive. There are a lot of cases where a person is being abused everyday and never have been physically hit; however, they have been controlled mentally, socially, economically, etc.
Cycle of abuse: the cycle of abuse exist in all domestic violence cases, no matter if it’s physically violent or not. Some people stay in abusive relationships because they don’t have anywhere to go. Some people stay because they are ashamed to tell someone what they are going through for fear of judgement. Some people stay because all they know is their abuser because they have been isolated from their family or friends. Some people stay because they don’t know there is a way out. Do your churches talk about Domestic Violence, do your schools, your job, your family, your community leaders, etc.? Is there a culture dedicated to protecting the victims and/or survivors or a culture dedicated to judging them and isolating them more. Don’t pretend it doesn’t exist. Don’t sweep it under the rug. Every moment you remain quiet is a moment where another man, woman, boy or girl is trapped in the cycle of violence.
Find out if there are domestic violence resources in your area. Take a class, read up on information, become informed so that you can become equipped to make a difference. Know more and stop IGNORING the signs. There are people in your church, community, family or job who are crying out for help and you may be the only source who can lead them to the appropriate resource.
I pray that you commit to learning more, pray more and help more. God bless!
Mrs. Nicole “Sunshine” Ellis, MBA
Can’t breathe: Try Spiritual CPR: Consistent in praying, Persistent in pursuing the knowledge of God, and Resistant to temptation.
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